Dear blogging nana,
I have two children, 6 and 3. Here’s the problem: I have no idea how to talk to them about human reproduction. What do you suggest.
You are not alone. And I am no expert in this department. I did a bit better than my mom who unintentionally communicated to me that sex was bad before I understood what it actually was. And I was too embarrassed to very effectively communicate with my own children.
But, as usual, nevertheless, I have some thoughts! to wit:
-Take some time with some close friends to practice and laugh about the subject. This will reduce the embarrassment that most of us carry. Do that a lot.
-Clarify what values you carry connected to human sexuality. Do you believe that sexuality should be limited to committed relationships? Do you think having good sex is important to having a good life as an adult? What does that mean?
–If your child asks a question, answer it; but don’t answer more than the question.
–Give your child an opportunity to observe animals mating. Even insects on a physiological level aren’t all that dissimilar.
I have a friend who I believe has done a good straight-forward job with her children; I think it helped that her mother was a nurse. She said that, like a career, marriage, and most other things in human life, a good sex life needs education. I agree.
And a question for my dear readers: do you know of some good books on this subject that you have found useful?